A Day in the life of.........
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
You are of worth, of Infinite Worth
Today as I listened to this song by Miley Cyrus I reflected on a recent experience I had.
"I can almost see it
That dream I am dreaming
But there's a voice inside my head saying
"You'll never reach it"
Every step I'm taking
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking
I was at the mall a few days ago in a popular store. There were several teenage girls there with their mothers and the girls were picking out and trying on dresses for the upcoming Homecoming Dance at the local high schools.
I look forward to the day when I can take my own daughter shopping and have "girl time" together. Unfortunately the feelings I had while in this store were so opposite of what they should have been.
The dresses that these beautiful girls were trying on were so inappropriate for who they are. I was crying inside. I watched these girls try on dresses that were too short, too tight, too skimpy and too "grown up". I also watched the mother's acting more like peers than parents.
My heart was breaking.
I was quiet on the outside but on the inside I was screaming!!
I wanted to take the girls in my arms and shake them and say:
"Do you know that you are worth so much more than what that dress shows you as?
Do you know how valuable you are?
Do you know that you are already beautiful and you don't have to wear things that diminish that beauty.
You are of worth! Of INFINITE worth!"
Parenting isn't a popularity contest.
Our children deserve so much more than that.
Call me old fashioned but I still believe it is a parent's responsibility to teach and rear their children and parents will be held accountable for the way they do or don't do this.
Why did these mother's approve of their daughters wearing things that take away from their true beauty and show them as objects rather than self confident, strong, respected, beautiful young women that they are?
It is easy to be discouraged. It's easy to think that morals and values are out of date, out of style and things of a past world, a different time--- but they aren't.
Instilling morals and values in our children and in our society are more important than ever. I think about the heartache that comes when you dismiss it too easily.
Society likes to teach if you restrict, discipline or "preach" too much than you are limiting your children and crushing "who they are" and it labels you as being "close minded."
I say if you are too open minded your brain falls out.
If you don't restrict some things for your children then natural consequences of actions (teen pregnancy, drug addiction, lost opportunity from failing grades etc.) will restrict your child for you.
If you don't preach to your children about the things you feel are important who will? I'll tell you who will--peers, media-including TV shows-music and lyrics--magazines etc., society, popular trends of the day, and anyone else they come in contact with.
There is a lot of good in the world. More good than bad.
But I gotta keep trying
Gotta keep my head held high
There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be a uphill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb
The struggles I'm facing
The chances I'm taking
Sometimes might knock me down
But no, I'm not breaking
I think this song can be applied to parenting. There are always going to be things we as parents want for our children. Sometimes it will be an uphill battle, sometimes we are going to lose. Sometimes we might get knocked down but we can't break. We have to keep trying. Always trying. We have to be strong. Push on.
The one part of the song I disagree with is where she says "Ain't about what's waiting on the other side" because it is EXACTLY about what is on the other side. We have a goal for our children and we have to keep our "eye on the prize." We cannot let our view get skewed with all the distractions in the path. We have been entrusted with these precious children and the responsibility is ours. We can do it.